November, only Four weeks long, what will we do with our time ….

November, so much to consider.  Seasons changing, time changing, attire changing, does anything stay the same?

Some things are good to keep the same, it is nice to be able to depend on a few things.  Five Sundays and five Mondays, do not be blue about Mondays.  We have five Sundays to catch up on rest, or chores, or projects.  Mondays are known as the start of things, what can we start?

Before it gets too late into the month we can call family members an see how they are doing.  Make time to visit long distant family members or send a card.  Has there been an estrangement?  Forget the issue, there are many reasons why, and they are not important as the years fly by.  Things can be misrepresented, misunderstood, misadvised, and just totally misdone.  Likely all feel sorry.  Yet, all miss out when there is an estrangement.  Reach out, remember the good, heal the breach, reconcile.  My ex father in law called Sunday and it has been years, I did not even recognize his voice until he laughed.  Nice visit on the phone.

Movies at this time of year are all so inspiring regarding spread the love, be kind to strangers, etc.  Love your neighbors, love your family and love strangers, put it into action.  Yet, be safe, do not be unwise.  People experience all sorts of fraud at this time of year because they want to be “good deed doers..”  as said on Wizard of Oz.  We can be responsible humans, considerate to fellowman, and if we consider ourselves Christian than Be that Christian the scriptures describe regarding the New Personality.  My father said, “Be what you say.”  His 7th grade education was weightier than an expert in a said field.  If you feel you are honest, then be honest, if you feel you are moral, than be moral.  If you feel you are loving, be loving.

Think of a goal, such as consider your prime responsibilities in life, are you a Husband, Wife, Father or Mother?  Consider how you can be better at that.  It is easy to assume we have it down pat and there is no need for improvement, but there is always room for improvement.  All can be more loving, more helpful, express love more often and show appreciation.  Help out with the expenses by not being so expensive to maintain.  Contribute more to the household by doing chores to help your mate with what they would normally do.  If there is more than one, than one alone should not be fixing the meals and doing the cleanup.  Help, do something, help with the dishes, or sweep or clean the bathroom.  Surprise your loved one with an unexpected card or a small gift, or meet them for lunch.  I met my son for lunch and we only arranged it an hour before.  It was so nice spending time with him at a restaurant close by his work.  He will be 23 this month and I cannot believe my middle son has grown to be such a wonderful adult.

My goal for November is to improve my part of all relationships I value.  Allot can happen in November, you can warm up your life.  “Be what you say!”

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Relationships, keep or let go…

When your feeling out of sorts and you cannot think straight because of the inconsiderate actions of another it can be devastating.  People have problems, and people are not perfect.  Most things can be worked through because relationships are valuable.  People too easily discard relationships that should be kept.  Yet, people hang on desperately to the toxic people that bring drama and pain into their lives.  It is very hard to discern what can be let go and what should be addressed.  If someone lies, gossips, and misrepresents you, you have to wonder what other hurt they are capable of.  Do you need the grief?  Can you change a relationship that has generated disrespect?  Maybe, address the problem and do not be afraid of loss, this way the power of manipulation is not there.  Nurturing, loving, supportive people I enjoy sharing my life with, otherwise, being alone isn’t such a threat.  It is quite nice at times.

I am so thankful for all the friends I have in my life, decades of friendships.  The thing that I find so freeing is that I do not have to like everyone, and I do not really care if I am liked.  The friendships I have I treasure and we have mutual respect and appreciation for each other.  I like and love people easily.

Having many personal interests has saved me from bad relationships.  Today, I was a little down from the effects of a sad situation that I find utterly confusing.  I did not let it keep me down for long, going outside and visiting with the chickens, rabbits, cats, dogs, and goats cheered me up.  Picking some cucumbers, squash, tomatoes, and peppers from the garden with my husband was such a pleasant experience.  We are blessed.  The abundance of creation is a delight.  I came in the house just truly counting my blessings.  We enjoyed a salad with our dinner.

Reflecting on my day, I had many joyful interactions with loving appreciative friends.  A sweet little girl sat next to me at the meeting.  Others came up to me and expressed such loving and sweet sentiments.  We had a good time with friends yesterday, and they told us today how much they liked our time together.  It is a privilege to have good friends.  It takes time to know someone, it takes time to make a friend and it is a worthy endeavor.  Being a friend to ourselves is crucial.

I have shed tears about the other situation, and I will address it tactfully.  Therefore, our relationship can flourish.  It is like pushing a reset button.  Relationships are worth keeping and building.