Relationships, keep or let go…

When your feeling out of sorts and you cannot think straight because of the inconsiderate actions of another it can be devastating.  People have problems, and people are not perfect.  Most things can be worked through because relationships are valuable.  People too easily discard relationships that should be kept.  Yet, people hang on desperately to the toxic people that bring drama and pain into their lives.  It is very hard to discern what can be let go and what should be addressed.  If someone lies, gossips, and misrepresents you, you have to wonder what other hurt they are capable of.  Do you need the grief?  Can you change a relationship that has generated disrespect?  Maybe, address the problem and do not be afraid of loss, this way the power of manipulation is not there.  Nurturing, loving, supportive people I enjoy sharing my life with, otherwise, being alone isn’t such a threat.  It is quite nice at times.

I am so thankful for all the friends I have in my life, decades of friendships.  The thing that I find so freeing is that I do not have to like everyone, and I do not really care if I am liked.  The friendships I have I treasure and we have mutual respect and appreciation for each other.  I like and love people easily.

Having many personal interests has saved me from bad relationships.  Today, I was a little down from the effects of a sad situation that I find utterly confusing.  I did not let it keep me down for long, going outside and visiting with the chickens, rabbits, cats, dogs, and goats cheered me up.  Picking some cucumbers, squash, tomatoes, and peppers from the garden with my husband was such a pleasant experience.  We are blessed.  The abundance of creation is a delight.  I came in the house just truly counting my blessings.  We enjoyed a salad with our dinner.

Reflecting on my day, I had many joyful interactions with loving appreciative friends.  A sweet little girl sat next to me at the meeting.  Others came up to me and expressed such loving and sweet sentiments.  We had a good time with friends yesterday, and they told us today how much they liked our time together.  It is a privilege to have good friends.  It takes time to know someone, it takes time to make a friend and it is a worthy endeavor.  Being a friend to ourselves is crucial.

I have shed tears about the other situation, and I will address it tactfully.  Therefore, our relationship can flourish.  It is like pushing a reset button.  Relationships are worth keeping and building.

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