Years ago I purchased a certain planner, a sort of day book for the year, which showed the monthly, weekly, and daily calendars. I read something the author published regarding success and accomplishment broken down using his planners. A systematic project planner.
When my children were small, in desperation I took a course in domestic affairs, getting it together was the basic theme and they had a fabulous card system that helped a person to think in a way that they no longer felt overwhelmed. The system helped you to think of tasks by seasons, months, weeks, and days of the weeks. The sisters helped me so often over the years, even taking my calls a couple times, answering my emails. Very compassionate and helpful. They too were once disorganized, and they achieved a system that has helped millions Get it Together. I would like to thank them.
The two systems one being the creator of this great planner that most businesses have utilized over the years, and the system these great sisters created can help about anyone to improve in their life.
Having the attention deficit, I have never naturally known how to keep the homestead looking presentable. I was raised in a very clean organized home. My mother was an excellent homemaker and she was systematic. It just didn’t rub off on me, I did not naturally get it. Although, it has always been important to me to have an organized life and home.
Now, this last few years I have really come to value systems. We have our solar system which is very timely. It seems that they always know how often a comet comes through, and when an eclipse will occur with the greatest predictability. I have come to appreciate the beauty of systems.
There was a time I was afraid of a rigid system, and schedules. I had a crazy notion that it would ruin my impulsive nature and steal my creativity. Too late, I learned that being totally impulsive without structure and organization robs me of success. Structure and organization free me up to utilize my impulsiveness and I no longer waste my creativity. Naturally, organization will always be a challenge. I just feel so much happier practicing a schedule.
The previous mentioned systems, like having my master list for the month and my master list for the week really help me to accomplish more. I schedule other things around my domestic routine because if my home is in disarray than my mind is too. A day or two not practicing my routine and it all falls apart like a house of cards. This causes a person to have low esteem, feeling totally ineffective. Breaking jobs into steps helps me, my life skills manager for attention deficit has been working with me for years striving to help me to break jobs into doable steps. I finally have been practicing this for a while. It is crucial that we feel we achieve something daily, weekly, and yearly. People make their resolutions or yearly goals at the beginning of the year, as people like to reflect on the past year to consider how they did in achieving those goals.
My master list this week included dejunking the laundry room, a very packed, depressing room where everything seemed to get put there. The thought of working in there was overwhelming and I only did laundry in there and left. This elephant kept growing. Is there an elephant in the room?, I would have rathered there was, it would have been more pleasant to deal with.
Using the master list system, I broke it down to a series of jobs. Example, this laundry room is part of a larger room where a piano and a couple chairs are. The two chairs were filled with an array of things, the piano above and under was packed up, the shelving unit unorganized, and clean laundry above and beneath the shelf where laundry is to be processed and put away. Besides a utility sink that needs to be hooked up, which cannot be hooked up until we move the dryer and paint behind where the sink and dryer go. Now you understand why this is so overwhelming? I have to admit that the piano was a bad deal, I bought a piano, had my men bring it here, only to find out there were serious problems with the piano and it isn’t even worth fixing. We just need to cut our losses and remove it. Why were the chairs filled with things, piles, I do not remember doing it, but I obviously put things there temporarily and the stay became extended. Under the shelf is a basket of socks that need to be matched up and it seemed we must have just kept buying more socks. Has anyone else ever done such a thing?
Making my master list: Chair 20 minutes, chair 20 minutes, under the piano 15 minutes, on the piano top 20 minutes, on the shelf of laundry station 15 minutes, under the shelf 20 minutes, painting a wall 1 hour, hooking up a sink 20 minutes. This week I have just been looking at a job and doing one and marking it off. After each job is an estimation of how much time I expect it to take. Being generous in those estimates. After the job is completed I write how much time it took me. I have seen where I was close on the estimates of a few jobs and way off on others. I hope to be done tomorrow. It is amazing seeing an empty chair.
Do it for yourself! That is advice commonly heard. But sometimes, I think we are not always enough, and it is good to think of others. Doing it for myself sadly has not been enough. My husband has been very patient with me thru all of this, and he has mentioned how he would like his sink hooked up. I am doing this for him and our whole family. It will benefit all to have the area pleasant, organized and ready to utilize. It will make myself happy too, so how isn’t it for myself. Pleasing my mate is pleasing to me.
Try out a new planner, or create a monthly and weekly planner to accomplish the things in your life that will open the way for greater peace and productivity. There will no longer be an elephant in the room.